Comments on: The Joy of Not Needing Anyone or Anything

By: Lexi

Lexi — Tue, 21 Sep 2021 00:54:08 +0000

Dear Jim, thank you so much for this post! I just had this moment of clarity arise just an hour ago that I don't need anyone. It came to me during a time of turmoil with my parents who have been trying for a while to reel me back into the role of a child, and for the first time in my life (I'm 33…well in this incarnation ;)) I was able to say no to that. And that's when I realized that they do it because the tables have turned: they realize that now they need me more than I need them, as opposed to the child who needs the parent(s) to survive. And suddenly I felt this deep truth that I am absolutely whole and good and divine and complete without anyone. Deep euphoria! I googled to see if anyone had posted anything about this and found your post/website which is resonating so much. Thank you for this. In deep gratitude, warmly, Lexi

By: LadyLuck

LadyLuck — Wed, 18 Aug 2021 15:41:08 +0000

This is such a beautiful post.
Its also such a coincidence that this morning I finally found some time to sit and begin clearing my inbox of tons of unread emails that have piled on top of each other for months now. I found myself beginning to unsubscribe from old subscriptions that I once found exciting to open because they were selling me something new and shinny to buy. For some reason, even though I hadn't opened any of those types of consumerism emails in a while, I just hadn't thought to unsubscribe. But as I did so, I realized that something fundamental within me has since shifted.

Same thing in my relationship. I am currently Separated from my Husband. And when the initial shock of the infidelity that led to a breakup happened, my initial programming drove me to immediately get on Dating Apps to "see what else is out there". However in just a few weeks after, I soon found myself deleting all dating apps from my phone as I found them too time-consuming, distracting and a waste of my valuable time. After which I got this sense of inner peace and a desire to just want to be alone for as long as it felt right.

Lately, I have found this to begin shifting again. I began sensing that I want to be with someone again but not in the old way of attachment and expectations. I just want a travel companion - someone who shares a similar journey so we can travel life together for as long as it feels right. No expectations. No attachment. No Judgment.

And with this awareness, I find myself suddenly opening up like a flower to the Universe to do its thing and make the magic happen.

In a sense its like I am two people and one of me is simply curious to observe what I would be like in a new type of relationship like this - almost like a sort of detached experience that you know you will feel intensely but without attachment.

This process I must say I have found to be the most intense ride of my life where I never know where it will lead and my only life line is to TRUST completely using wisdom as my guide. So hard to explain yet so beautiful to experience.

By: Tiziana Stupia

Tiziana Stupia — Mon, 06 Jul 2020 17:40:49 +0000

Great article, Jim. It has also been my experience that we can drop in and out of this awareness until it perhaps one day settles. Like you say, roots can go deep for issues. But just knowing this and seeing the issue for what it is, rather than dodging the pain, makes all the difference.

By: Jim Tolles

Jim Tolles — Mon, 25 May 2020 17:19:18 +0000

If you are experiencing craving, then that's ego. Here's some more thoughts on craving:

Craving Love

By: Jim Tolles

Jim Tolles — Mon, 25 May 2020 17:17:42 +0000

Yes. Being is enough. We need nothing more (outside of actual physical necessities like air, food, and water).