Comments on: Soulmates and Other Myths that Bind Our Love

By: Jim Tolles

Jim Tolles — Mon, 21 Jul 2025 00:46:22 +0000

In reply to Charlie Simmon. Thanks for sharing, Charlie. This is a very old blog post, so here are some additional thoughts: We have deep social needs, but society is broken. We don't have a community of 30 to 40 people with whom we live in close connection with. So now, we are hoping one person will fit the needs of 40! We need community. A romantic partnership is a part of a whole community, not a whole community.

By: Charlie Simmon

Charlie Simmon — Thu, 17 Jul 2025 07:48:22 +0000

NOT selling anything — just sharing a visual exercise that deepened my own “soulmate myth” exploration Jim, I love how you dismantle the cultural obsession with “The One” and re‑center the journey on inner work. Reading this reminded me how easily we project unmet needs onto another person instead of meeting them within ourselves first. To get clear on which parts of me I still outsource to “ideal partners,” I tried a fun art generator that turns your self‑reflection answers into a personal soulmate portrait. Seeing those qualities personified forced me to confront what I’m actually longing for—and where it’s already available inside. Unexpectedly powerful! If any fellow readers want to experiment, here’s the tool (no affiliation—just found it helpful): https://soulmate‑drawing.pro/ Thanks for continually bringing the conversation back to self‑love as the root of all healthy relationships. Your posts keep me honest about where the real work begins.

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By: Winnie

Winnie — Tue, 07 May 2019 16:21:37 +0000

I always just say that we have soul connections with lots of people in our lives and some feel stronger based on what we need to learn, how open (or not) we are to the lesson, and where we are in our lives or point of growth. I met a life-changing soul connection in 2015. It was powerful and I never felt anything like it and for a very brief bit of time, I began to allow myself to go down the “Twin Flame” path, but I think it is a waste of time. He was a soul connection and it felt strong because it needed to feel that way go shake me. I am still working out exactly what the lesson(s) were (I.e. were there multiple or one big one that I am missing), so it really doesn’t matter what label I put on it except to make myself or the connection feel somehow more special or “chosen” than those of others. In the end, it went nowhere that I wanted it to go and I am not entirely sure to this day that it was reciprocal (as far as what was felt), so I can either complain about not knowing how to label it or what it meant or I can accept that it was a catalyst of change of some sort and that the lessons may become clearer to me as time moves forward. I have settled on the latter.

By: Anonymous

Anonymous — Sat, 23 Jun 2012 02:00:27 +0000

I love this essay. Someone I believe was a soul mate and I had a terrible falling out. Now that I am more spiritually awakened and aware of what happened and accept it, I feel I need to make amends to this person. Though I was terribly hurt by the way he acted in the end, I am horrified about how I reacted to it looking back. I want to make a simple written amends and send a few things back, but there was so much ego drama and control games there that I am worried what will happen if he responds or if he does not respond. The whole thing put me in such a state of depression that I am not quite out of yet, and yet I want to clear up some soulmate karma and be able to take however that goes.